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Anniversary Day!

Hello fellow bloggers! Today is my 7 year wedding anniversary, and so I thought I would offer a list of what I have learned about marriage over the last 7 years.

  1. The first year is the hardest, hang in there.
  2. Regardless of how right you are, fight the urge to say it.
  3. 99% of all arguments are a waste of energy.
  4. Relating to the above, TRY to bite your tongue. When someone screws up, they know it.
    You really don't have to reiterate.
  5. Finances can complicate things. Discuss how to handle them PRIOR to marrying. It will
    save you loads of grief.
  6. Decide how many children you want and when PRIOR to marrying.
  7. Decide if both spouses will work during child rearing years PRIOR to marrying.
  8. Know now that you will love your children more than you ever thought of loving anyone
    else, but please do not let your spouse know that fact. :)
  9. Children can CAUSE and FIX arguments. You will argue about things you never
    considered once kids are into the equation, but one smile from your child(ren) will make
    you forget how angry you are at your spouse. (See #4)
  10. You will experience more with this person than you have ever experienced with any other
    person -- including your parents/siblings. Respect him or her. Love him or her. Be patient
    with him or her. And when all else fails, laugh at each other. Laughter makes everything
    better.

    After 10 total years with my husband, I am still deeply in love with him. I wish the same for all of you. :)

    M.B.

Comments

  1. Such a good list, and I can only ditto everything you've said. After 38 years of marriage over here, we've applied each of these points at one time or another. I guess the only thing I might add is no matter what, find ways to continue to respect your husband, and pray that he continues to cherish you. It's a winning combination :-)

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  2. p.s. Congratulations on your anniversary!

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  3. Great advice, Kenda and wow 38 years! I am bowing right now. :)

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  4. Happy anniversary! (Late!) Nice post! ...and timely. :)

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  5. Thanks, Amanda, and what do you mean by "timely?" Is there something you should be announcing?

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